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Sunday, July 10, 2011

The Marriage Vow




There are many reason why I am not fond of religion. There are also many reasons why I am not too pleased with people who think of themselves as social conservatives. As far as I am concerned, both are just alternative ways to address bigotry and intolerance. Mixing religion and politics is like having cake with your eggs, or driving a car with bicycle handle bars....it just doesn't work.

There's this guy named Bob Vander Plaats, a social conservative from Iowa who has introduced this silly pledge called "The Marriage Vow". Guess what it's purpose is? That's right! To tell people how evil and toxic the queers are! This, being the latest of conservative pledges, is being presented by Plaats' The Family Leader organization-- one of the many conservative groups that seeks to improve the quality of the American family by promoting so-called Christian values. In other words, they want to keep gays from getting "married". 

"The sanctity of marriage" is a catch-phrase that is CONSTANTLY thrown around by people like this-- people that refer to what they interpret as "God's plan" in keeping marriage between a man and a woman. Which is bullshit, after all-- I mean, in a country with shows like "The Bachelor", and with a divorce rate that damn-near dwarfs the marriage rate, and with married politicians and celebrities constantly being caught with their pants down...it seems to me that heterosexuals have no concept of what the word "sanctity" means. 

These social conservatives really do no understand what a "family" really means. Well, they have this image or ideal in their heads...


...but this is just an image. I think many of these people are simply in love with a mythological ideal of what the word "family" represents. "Family", as defined by Merriam-Webster, has about 8 meanings-- none of which cite specifics of what the social conservatives define. One of those definitions is as follows:

"the basic unit in society traditionally consisting of two parents rearing their children; also : any of various social units differing from but regarded as equivalent to the traditional family"

Doesn't say anything about gay or straight there. Then again, when it comes to social bigots conservatives, the only book that they want to acknowledge is the Bible. Even then, from what I know of the Bible, I don't think intolerance and hated are among the tenants of what are defined as good values. But what do I know-- I am not a religious person.

Aside from the anti-gay angle, there is one passage in this so-called marriage vow that I take issue with. In fact, it's the first bullet point listed in the pledge:

"Slavery had a disastrous impact on African-American families, yet sadly a child born into slavery in 1860 was more likely to be raised by his mother and father in a two-parent household than was an African- American baby born after the election of the USA‟s first African-American President."


Clearly this is meant to take a swing at President Obama-- again, this is more of a political document than anything regarding the family, or conservative "values".  The idiotic thing here is this claim that African American children were more likely to be raised by two-parents. BULL. SHIT. Whoever wrote this pledge has absolute no concept of American history. So let me shed a little light on this issue:

When Africans were first brought to this country as slaves, there were a disproportionate ratio of men to women-- nearly 20 men to 1 woman. When slave owners started breeding Africans, OFTEN TIMES children and fathers were sold off to other plantations, either for profit or punishment...and both. Black men were murdered and lynched at an alarming rate, in spite of their families. And lets not forget to mention the white slave owners that impregnated black women, who in turn sold the kids and the mother to hide them from their "real" families (to protect the "sanctity of marriage" I assume). I suggest reading up on the subject-- pick a book, ANY BOOK

In other words, this "pledge" is toilet tissue. Sure, I believe that these people actually think that they are doing something good. Mostly, however, this is just another manipulative, divisive document that serves to propagate a toxic culture.

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